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Wild Horse

The Wild Horse-way for a Life Journey of Derailment & Stagnation

Meet the Wild Horse of the Namib desert. The Wild Horse can be a magnificent animal, providing that everything goes according to plan. Once the the harsh conditions of the Namib desert sets in, the Wild Horse resort to what it knows best… “doing more of the same, hoping to achieve different results!” Believing unconditionally and hoping in vain that his stupid actions will somehow miraculously change his future (i.e. his stars).

1. Attitude & Sabotage Programs

The habitual inclination sourcing from a dominated Wild Horse attitude is physical and materialistic in nature, dominated by the ego and directed by the following lower-self mindsets and sabotage programs…

  1. Instinctive Mindset (which focus mainly on survival and prosperity),
  2. Tribal Mindset (which focus mainly on maintaining security and safety in groups),
  3. Egocentric Mindset (which focus mainly on establishing dominance and power),
  4. True Purpose Mindset (which focus mainly on seeking meaning and to establish order) and
  5. Strive Drive Mindset (which focus mainly on achieving autonomy and to demonstrate independence).

2. Philosophy of Life

An unhealthy, unbalanced and a “out of context” combination of the above mindsets, quite often result in a philosophy of life with a toxic underlying theme of… “faith has dealt us a deck of cards, we just have to play with it as best we could”, which normally surface as an attitude towards life characterized by an active blaming game and dominated by the following GPS belief system…

  • My self-esteem is dependent upon my being approved by everybody, and to be accepted I have to please and agree with others.
  • If I have to consider myself worthwhile (i.e. unhealthy self-worth), I must always win, achieve and succeed… no matter what!
  • Other people are to blame for things that go wrong in my life.
  • I should always worry when things are not exactly how I think that they should be.
  • I should always dwell on the possibility of the past repeating itself.
  • Stuffing down my feelings and emotions makes my life safe and happy.
  • I am weak and need to be dependent on someone, something or some divine power.
  • I should be upset about, and preoccupy myself with the problems of others and correct it, by force if necessary.
  • My way of seeing the world is the only right and acceptable way.
  • I am limited in that what I can do or accomplish and success is possible through groups of like-minded people that see the world as I do and if they don't, to either bully or “blackmail” them into agreeing with me.

3. Foundation Mentality

From this toxic foundation - and in silent partnership with the dark force - develop a victim mentality (i.e. unconditional conformity and strive for acceptance & desirability), gets well established and which - in turn - sustain…

  • constant experiences of “the world makes me sick”… mentally, spiritually and physically.
  • a seriousness about life and a view that responsibilities always should direct everything… work, personal life, marriage, family life and even relaxation activities.
  • personal expectations of we need to “suffer this life” and that doing ones work shouldn't be light-hearted and enjoyable.
  • consistent feelings of failure, frustration, helplessness and despair.
  • the idea that personal contributions doesn't really matter and wouldn't change anything at all.
  • plenty emotions of hostility toward the world in general with an underlying cautiousness to go “out” there to try and sustain a normal life.
  • an illusionary perspective that life is a relentless battle for survival and a continues struggle to make ends meet.
  • a fear for changes and new developments in life; changes at work, at home and in society is normally experience as very scary.
  • consistent experiences and feelings of being redundant, worthless and merely occupying space.
  • poor morals control, which originate from a collective morality that develops in society, especially at work as directed by a fear for rejection.
  • a frequent realization of being bullied into a particular direction in life, without the possibility of parole and/or the option (i.e. choice) to follow another more suitable direction in life.
  • a “truth” that life is cluttered with many problems and - despite toiling at it for hours on end each day - there are still not enough hours in a day to even deal with half of the problems.
  • an acute environmental perspective of unfairness, double standards, discrimination, hidden agendas and inequalities.
  • a restricted view of the future and experiencing a lack of available opportunities.
  • a tendency to “create” problems for every possible solutions that might exist.

4. View of Life

A mindset, philosophy of life and mentality of a dominant wild horse attitude, often result in the following characteristic traits (i.e. habit) when dealings with life's adversities…

  • I am not really recognized for my value and contributions, therefore I don't have to take the initiative or responsibility any longer”.
  • I will be committed…. when you are….. and if you…
  • If things was different…. I would be more loyal, committed, enthusiastic and devoted”.
  • All I have to do is to remain “alive”, I am much too insignificant and anonymous to make a real difference to my present circumstances”.
  • When others do not have consideration and respect for who I am, I do not need to be loyal and considerate towards others”.
  • I am entitled to be judgmental, because others do not recognize my worth as a unique and wise individual”.
  • I will see to it that - those for whom I am responsible - will do things the right way, which is my way or the highway”.
  • I will not tolerate any independent choices or actions, because people do not act in a responsible manner and don't know what they are doing anyhow”.
  • I only learn and participate in activities when it is worth my while, I can personally gain something from it or when I can learn something for my own benefit”.
  • I will devote more time to my family and friends, if and only when things are less critical at work, in society and/or the situation improves dramatically”.
  • Actively employ “halting responses” to either derail, block or delay change.

5. Contingency Game Plan

Often the above approach to life's adversities tends to result in an overt survival strategy of….

  • Chronically “not on time” with circumstantial excuses as reasonable justifications (e.g. traffic, an accident, wrong directions, too much to be done in a too short a time, …etc.).
  • Absent minded” and “forgetting” important arrangements.
  • Tendency to be careless.
  • Constantly voicing “do not expect too much from me”.
  • Being careless, clumsy and awkward.
  • Being helpless and frustrated.
  • Doing things slowly under the “valid excuse” of “still waiting for others to do their thing”.
  • Not volunteering to take-up any accountability, let alone accepting any responsibility for choices and decisions made.
  • Demonstrate a average or below average willingness to participate… cooperation, co-creation and/or sharing isn't even considered.
  • Not being innovative, just do what is expected… nothing more and nothing less.
  • Turning a blind eye to unnecessary waste (e.g. efforts, energy, time, productivity and resources).
  • Develop some kind of an “illness” as soon as pressures are mounting.
  • Quick to blame others… the society, the politics, the economy, the environment or the circumstances for “forcing” personal choices and actions.

…and a covert survival strategy of…

  • Always argumentative.
  • Hostile expressions and postures.
  • Show underlying timidity and fearfulness.
  • Reacts shyly and reticently.
  • Demonstrate nervousness and anxiety.
  • React with verbal aggressiveness.
  • Easily becomes tearful.
  • Show extreme emotional upsets.
  • Withdraw into a hostile silence.
  • Sulking and/or “tantrums” when opposed.
  • Causing dissension amongst others.
  • Establish cliques, seek recipes (i.e. one size fits all) and use bandwagon terms to “solve” problems.
  • Start gossip and rumour circles.
  • Sabotage efficiency by means of judgmental and critical reactions.

When left unchecked… wild horse survival strategies can easily develop into a dark angel onslaught on life and it eventually leads to burnout and complete self-destruction.

6. Wild Horse-beingness

The unfortunate residue and impact of a dominant wild horse attitude, mindset, view of life and survival strategies can briefly be indicated as follows…

  • Various “vague” aches and pains.
  • Indigestion (specially heartburn).
  • Chest pains.
  • Frequent headaches and in severe cases, migraines.
  • Stomach problem (often ulcers) and a spastic colon.
  • Lower back, shoulder, neck and arm pains.
  • Muscle spasms.
  • Fatigue syndrome (ME).
  • High blood pressure.
  • Anxiousness.
  • Irritable.
  • Easily threatened.
  • Hassled.
  • Jealous.
  • Fearful.
  • Panicky.
  • Extremely sensitive.
  • Disagreements regarded as personal attacks.
  • Marital, relationship and/or interaction difficulties.
  • Restricted contact with others, specially children.
  • Few social outings.
  • Non-assertive and aggressive behaviour .
  • Few friends.
  • Difficult personal and workplace relations, characterized by consistent conflicts.
  • The over-pleasing of or hostility towards other people.
  • Constant rushes and races or rants and raves.
  • Tends to act aggressively (actively/passively or both).
  • Compensatory actions.
  • Constant excuses for not delivering or meeting deadlines.
  • Sleeplessness.
  • Constant tension.
  • Always on the go, no time to re-thinking or evaluating present circumstances.
  • Difficulty - even an inability - to relax (i.e. just doing nothing).
  • Competitive and always on guard.
  • Often skips or rushes meals.
  • Work extremely long hours, just to try and keep on top of things and… because time is money.
  • Have a sense of entitlement and “others own me big time…
  • Take all the credit for victories, regardless…
  • Watch TV everyday and indulge in passive entertainment
  • Fear and avoid change
  • Fly by the seat of your pants and always has to deal with some kind of crisis
  • Talk and gossip about people
  • Hoard information and data
  • Exude anger and resentment about life in general
  • Criticize others
  • Hold grudges
  • Blame others for all failures
  • Pretty sure that you know it all
  • Operate from a transactional standpoint
  • Secretly hope that others will fail
  • Don't know and do not care what they want to be, and block other from achieving their goals in life
  • Never set any goals nor take any productive actions and results/outcomes often are unproductive

An overpowering Wild Horse Attitude generally act as source to maintain an active Job-centric Climate and the accompanied domino effect, which is an absolute destructive environment to experience real aha-moments and riddled with plenty of false positivesThe illusion that everything “measures” as well and working, when - as a matter of fact - there are plenty of adversities, aggression, resentments and hostility bubbling just below the surface, which could erupt any time or with the slightest provocation. .

7. The Professional Wild Horse

Following a path in life that…

  • …unconditionally expects a 24/7 dedication for a “market related” salary.
  • …requires a prescriptive and a demanding spiral of template experiences.
  • …offer a bearable life with an illusion of comfort and security that suffocate fulfillment and stunt personal growth.
  • …take over and consume your life that leaves you in spiritual vacuum, emotional dessert and clueless as to what you are suppose to accomplish in life.
  • …eagerly replaces life's meaning and purpose with consumerism.
  • …places you in an endless job hunting cycle and a futile pursuit for happiness.
  • …leaves you desolated, frustrated and wondering what happened to your dreams.
  • …create a strict routine life that is uninspired, mundane, mediocre, meaningless and without any significant purpose.
  • …depresses your soul, suffocates your spirit and bullies individuality.
  • …“forces” you to love and admire people that uses money, status and power to bully others (i.e. toxic role models).
  • …justifies itself by contributing to your pension, health plan and results in a “gold watch” at retirement as a reward for being a good and “obedient matrix slave”.
  • …involves working with and amongst people that dictates, control and direct the “what-where-when” of your actions and activities.
  • …makes your life, the community and the world at large a miserable & frustrating place to be, …unless you can handsomely pay for something better.
  • …prompts you to stray from the many joys and passions in your life.
  • …negatively impact on and shatter your self-esteem and self-worth (i.e. weakening your self-determination).
  • …erodes and dilute respect for yourself, others and human diversity.
  • …makes you feel small, insignificant and a helpless victim of circumstances.
  • …fosters money, things and status as the “real” source of confidence and security.
  • …demands that you do what ever it takes to please other people, specially those responsible for your paycheck.
  • …makes you feel stupid, birdbrained and inadequate, because you failed to follow the prescribed “life manual” and “work memorandum” literally.
  • …is pressuring you to curb & cripple your principles, ethics and values in favor of present day popularity trends.
  • …deters your priorities and derails your relationships.
  • …lacks challenges, curbs ambitions, stifles uniqueness and inhibits personal growth.
  • …turns you into someone that other people want you to be.

A survival existence implies that you… …limit and restrict applying your many gifts and talents for personal growth and to deliver contributions (i.e. mainly do as you are instructed, when instructed to do so). …do things and get involved in activities solely for the sake of “putting bread on the table” and to increase your earning potential. …award others the right to determine what you should do and when, all in the noble spirit of… “for the greater good of society”. …work and operate in places and environments that you resent, frustrates and demoralizes you (i.e. a toxic climate). …work on dictated problems, issues and obstacles that you actually care very little about …but, at least it pays. …gain the same and repetitive experiences - year in and year out - that you hopefully assume will “look good” on your CV. …monotonously go through the daily required and expected motions. …invariably compare your own life with the fortunes and/or misfortunes of others.

General knowledge, regardless how impressive in quantity and comprehensive in variety, actually is of little use in either obtaining or achieving success in the real world.

The different faculties at “acclaimed” universities, colleges and schools - when put together - practically represents every form and shape of general knowledge presently known to man. Unfortunately, many of the teachers, lecturers and professors have little or no practical successes, because they specialize in transferring knowledge and don't dispense the “reality” value of knowledge within a particular context (i.e. don't focus on learning).

Thus, general knowledge - in essence - is merely memorized knowledge with a limited application value to overcome obstacles, solve problems and deal with issues constantly surfacing in real life as a result of endless change.

A stagnated modus of operandi is characterized by the following…

  • A constant uphill battle to keep yourself motivated, focused and dedicated to obtain even the simplest of goals and meet deadlines on time, …unless there is an immense crisis of course.
  • Permanently busy - or at least appears to be busy - loitering around, without actually accomplishing much regarding the obtaining of objectives and the achieving of goals.
  • An ongoing and exhausting personal attempt to remain involved, motivated and to sustain some kind of productivity resemblance.
  • Aimlessly diddling around, without paying much attention to or even being unaware of a looming crisis, possible obstacle, potential problem or surfacing issue… unless, “informed” by “others” to the effect.
  • Have to be bribed, threatened or forced to complete tasks in time meet deadlines, adhere to a standard or maintain quality assurance.
  • Expecting a market related salary simply for attendance and accumulation of an assortment of qualifications.
  • Continual and a smoldering presence of an underlying restlessness, frustration, hostility and agitation toward work related activities, as well as life in general.

Maintainers are inclined to half heartedly address obstacles, tackle problems and deal with issues, only when duly instructed to do so by others in a position of power and authority. The rest of the time is forfeited by complaining about “the unfairness of life” with little to no intent of taking any durable action… apart from the active playing of the blaming game.

Enablers tend to “encourage” people to remain static (i.e. discourage real and lasting inner change) and primarily deal with much needed change by focusing on “correcting” the environment, external or outer sources of conflict and/or difficulties.

The strategy mainly employed by enablers are to explore the situation and circumstances, identify valid excuses and/or reasons WHY things are the way they are and then formulate a problem solution strategy centering around the troubled person as the actual “innocent” victim of unfair circumstances.

The maintainer-enabler attitude (although very sympathetic, quite understanding and generally very acceptable) does nothing to address and solve real life problems. It often result in “letting the person feel better” - temporarily - and improve his/her skills of playing a more robust blaming game. In essence maintaining-enablers are careful to avoid confrontations, the strain relationships or to rock the boat.

The domino effect is a chain reaction that often occurs when something goes wrong or in a time of crisis. The result can best be illustrated by the mechanical effect of a falling row of stacked dominoes. When one domino topples it keeps on pushing-over others, till everything conks in. In human terms it can be compared to situations such as nervous breakdowns, burnouts, acute depressions and/or the physical, mental & spiritual collapse of a person.

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  • Last modified: 08 May, 2019 @ 7:29am
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