Short an Sweet!
As within… so without!

Self-worth is a term reflecting our worth or value as a person, as perceived by ourselves. Where as self-confidence is mainly derived from external feedback, self-worth - in turn - is mainly derived from internal feedback. Self-worth reflect our faith in our own unique potential and that which could be, rather than that what is.

When we look outside (e.g. the outer or external world) for self-worth, we are giving our personal power away and set ourselves up for failure and to become a victim of circumstances. Sadly though, we are trained, taught and conditioned to be victims and to surrender our personal power specifically to more authoritative, divine controlling systems and outside or external influences such as…

  • people
  • places
  • things and possessions
  • property
  • prestige
  • status
  • external manifestations (e.g. looks, talent, intelligence)

…can derail, distract and let us lose focus on what is really important in life and who we truly are. Thus, we essentially lose sight of our magnificent selves.

These external aspects can either give or destroy our self-confidence… but they could NEVER provide us self-worth. And without a balanced and healthy self-worth, we gradually become helpless, powerless and vulnerable to the unreasonable wimps of “outside” forces (i.e. an unfortunate victim of circumstances).

The scary reality is that the cornerstone institutions (e.g. education, church, state) of our modern society are most active in the manner in which they promote self-confidence, which in reality camouflage deliberate efforts to completely and utterly destroy individual self-worth.

Why would these cornerstone institutions promote self-confidence and simultaneously actively destroy self-worth?

An easy question to ask, but quite difficult to answer and a question that is keeping many philosophers and social scientist occupied for many years. There are many different views and perspectives on this topic, but essentially it tends to boil down to… “Confident individuals without the foundation of a secure self-worthiness are much easier to control and manipulate, than individuals with a steadfast and secure self-worth and shaky self-confidence”.

As long as we look outside of the SELF, to discover who we really are, to define ourselves as unique individuals and give us self-worth, we are setting ourselves up to surely become vulnerable and helpless victims. We are taught (mostly in a very subtly manner) to look outside ourselves to other people, places, things and to “define” ourselves as a businessman, entrepreneur, Christian, accountant, farmer, psychologist, father, husband …etc. When this happens - define ourselves according to outside criteria - we surrender our personal power and open ourselves for manipulation and control, that make use of self-confidence channels which is related to collectively accepted criteria. Thus building individual self-worth on outsider norms and not on inner principles.

We can have all the money, property and prestige in the world and have every single person on this planet adore us. But when we are not at peace within (i.e. have secure self-worth) and when we don't love, respect and accept ourselves; we become a powerless victim who can be easily controlled and manipulated by institutional forces presently in power using human core concerns as launching platform for persuasions and manipulations.

When self-worth are coupled with imposter syndrome, it can yield devastating results. This is dealing a lot with the basic and inner conflict of tragedy and luck.

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  • Last modified: 26 September, 2018 @ 11:23am
  • by Jan Viljoen