The world is full of Kings and Queens, who blind our eyes and steal our dreams. ~ Anonymous

Self-Determination

A healthy and balanced SELF-DETERMINATION provide us with a BIG HEART to live life to the fullest!

Self-determination is the human standing of physical, mental, emotional and spiritual balance, equilibrium & synchronicity, wherein we can or cannot be controlled by our environment as determined by our own choices. We are confident in our intra-personal interactions as the robust foundation for harmonious inter-personal relations. Thus, we reasons… BUT isn't compelled to react; we can decide how we would like to respond towards stimuli from our external environment.

We establish and sustain a healthy self-determination equilibrium by accepting personal responsibility and deploying productive self-empowerment strategies within the demarcation of group (i.e. social or community) accountability; that should be integrated with the up keep of healthy psyche management mechanisms - especially resilience - and the initiation, establishment and sustaining of specialized knowledge.

Lifestyle

To sustain an adequate level of self-determination for our daily lives is usually much easier said than done, because we…

  1. have to face our past without regret or guilt,
  2. should be thankful for the many lessons that we have learned from our past experiences in life (the good, the bad and the terrible),
  3. must handle the present with confidence and poise (i.e. utilizing the power of now and seize the moment),
  4. have to prepare for a future without fear, free from ignorance and focused on our dreams and expectations,
  5. need to sustain a harmonious attitude based on compassionate love, hope and faith in the process of life.

Thus, to keep our faith and drop our fears. Don't belief our doubts and never doubt our believes. Life is awesome, wonderful and marvelous… once we know how to live and make the most of it!

Be careful what you wish for, you might just get it! To establish and maintain a healthy and productive level of self-determination, it is important to realize that the coping mechanism of repression often is the launching platform from which we develop and initiate a balanced level of self-determination, which gradually allows us to respond and no longer react to external stimuli. This is also known as - in popular terms - emotional maturity and the source of our personal power.

Therefore a self-determined individual…

  • regard problems as challenges.
  • have definite personal boundaries for conduct.
  • do not manipulate for personal gain or deceive others.
  • envy no one and take charge of his/her own destiny.
  • know and understand that consciousness eventually changes reality.
  • both happiness and suffering is sacred, because of the inherent life lessons.
  • do not censor him-/herself or care or take seriously what others do, say or think.
  • evil is seen as the absence of autonomy, personal choice and self-worth.
  • lead by setting an example, and is reluctant to follow any unquestioned dogmas.

Crucial Evolving Cycle

Sustaining a healthy and well balanced level of self-determination (i.e. Individual responsibility within the demarcation of group accountability) in economic challenging and changing times, is extremely difficult because…

In general we have a unhealthy tendency to accept the illusion that our personal power is determined, granted and mainly seated in “outside forces”. This self-defeating perspective or belief, tends to upset the delicate balance level of our own self-determination (i.e. individuality versus conformity struggle), because our self-determination scale is unhealthy tipped in favor of an external dominated or driven locus of control.

The Past

The above personal self-determination tendency develops as a toxic result of the prevailing collective self-determination consciousness presently in existence. Our present collective self-determination consciousness, is primarily determined by Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs formulated way back in 1943. Despite plenty of criticism, Maslow's hierarchy of needs still forms the basic “carrot/stick” driven foundation of our modern day collective self-determination consciousness, specifically in capitalistic-bureaucratic driven straight jacket dominated countries.

Resulting from the above, a collective self-determination consciousness triangle developed that can be illustrated as follows…

The self-determination triangle, sourcing from and a result of Maslow's hierarchy of needs.

The Present

Back in the days - 1943 to be exact - the above self-determination triangle quite accurately reflects the manner in which the majority of people were able to successfully dealt with establishing and sustaining an efficient self-determination level. However, that was 70 years ago and since then many things (e.g. politics, the economy, science, technology, …etc.) went through a process of momentous change… which created a present day workplace and societal landscape that is quite different from the one back in 1943.

The changes over a period of 70 years, and in combination with toxic VIDSHE-manipulations, resulted in a workplace and social landscapes, which are characterized by a brutality powered workplace climate. This effectively transform the collective self-determination consciousness triangle, from having a relative secure footing to a volatile and very shaky “triangle” that is easily manipulated by any number of external forces for their own selfish advantage. This manipulated self-determination triangle can be illustrated as follows…

Collective self-determination triangle as a result of change and self-serving VIDSHE-manipulations

The Future

In modern times this evolved collective self-determination consciousness triangle is no longer robust enough to withstand unexpected external pressures and is easily toppled over to create an inner psyche climate (i.e. stormy emotions and feelings) of frustration, confusion, helplessness and utter despair. This inner turmoil frequently manifest in all kinds of social problems such as the escalation of corruption, increased divorce rate, spiraling unemployment, drug abuse, various addictions, depressions, stress, suicide, burnouts, teenage pregnancies, strikes, rage, …etc. The primary instigators and main source for experiencing acute Future Shock.

When the above collective self-determination consciousness remains an important primary directive for an individual's personal self-determination, we can safely assume that many things will get much worse in future, than it is at the moment. Thus, something gotta give …big time… before it will get any better.

However, chaos and catastrophes needn't be an inevitable outcome, providing that most people become aware of, realize and truly accept the healing power and robust counter measure of Self-organizing Networks for many of our modern day dilemmas. Although the solution appears to be very simple and quite easy to implement, eventual success mainly depends on a profound attitude change and a major mindset shift. Something that can not be easily brought about in a collective social climate which is riddled by panic, stupidity, ignorance and many fears.

Therefore, as an important first step for healing (either personally or collectively), individuals must realize that authentic Self-determination is based on and source from the TRUE self. Any individual's true self is sustained by reliable self-actualization, brought about by resilience, sturdy psyche management techniques, productive self-empowerment strategies, unique competencies and specialized knowledge.

Keeping the above in mind, we have to realize that each of us have to calibrate our present personal Self-determination Triangle to give the required prominence to self-actualization in order to efficiently deal with the many adversities of modern day life. A self-determination triangle directed and controlled by self-actualization can be illustrated as follows…

Self-determination triangle which is the foundation for the successful implementation and sustaining of Self-organizing Networks

Final Thoughts

Changing the collective Self-determination Consciousness Triangle, one person at a time… starting with you!

The Change Management playlist (hosted on YouTube) provide some insight into what the real power of a healthy and balanced self-determination is all about. Please watch it… it just might influence your current perspective of your own life a little bit. Who defines who you are?

Inherent Dangers

Sustaining of a healthy and well balanced level of self-determination (i.e. Individual responsibility within the demarcation of group accountability) in modern times, generally speaking, are influenced by the following…

  • An unhealthy tendency to accept the illusion that our personal power are determined, granted and mainly seated in “outside forces”, particularly our possessions and what we consume.
  • Upsetting of the delicate balance of our own self-determination (i.e. individuality versus conformity), because our self-determination scale are frequently tipped in favour of an external dominated Locus of Control, as a result of our pursuits to “fit in” and to be accepted by society.
  • Discouraged to critically question society's self-determination dogmas.

The inherent dangers of the above influences to personal self-determination often lies in…

  1. Others may look down on you, because of your pursuit for purpose and meaning in life, rather than the widely accepted and proverbial chase after the 'pot of gold at the end of the rainbow'.
  2. When doing what you regard as 'the right thing to do' you are isolated from the mainstream of society and tolerated as eccentric or a weirdo.
  3. Consistently have to explain your stance, views and ideas.

Never explain yourself. Your friends don't need it and your enemies won't believe it.

Never respond to rudeness. When people are rude to you, they reveal who they are, not who you are. Don't take it personally.

You don't lose family or friends because real friends and family can never be lost. You lose people masquerading as family or friends.

An honest enemy is always better than a friend who lies. Pay less attention to what people say, and more attention to what they do. Their actions will reveal the truth to you.