Never laugh at anyone's dreams. People who don't have dreams don't have much. ~ Anonymous

Self-Determination

A healthy and balanced SELF-DETERMINATION provide us with a BIG HEART to live life to the fullest! (i.e. lean and mean when confronted with and dealing with challenges)

Self-determination is the human standing of physical, mental, emotional and spiritual balance, equilibrium & synchronicity, wherein we can or cannot be controlled by our environment as determined by our own choices. We are confident in our intra-personal interactions as the robust foundation for harmonious inter-personal relations. Thus, we reasons… BUT isn't compelled to react; we can decide how we would like to respond towards stimuli from our external environment.

We establish and sustain a healthy self-determination equilibrium by accepting personal responsibility and deploying productive self-empowerment strategies within the demarcation of group (i.e. social or community) accountability; that should be integrated with the up keep of healthy psyche management mechanisms - especially resilience - and the initiation, establishment and sustaining of specialized knowledge.

Self-determination allows an individual to performs as per his/her capability. Therefore, self-determined individuals are highly robust and creative people who “can do wonders” and contribute productively to almost any situation.

Self-determination refer to an individual that make choices and take decisions primarily based on their own preferences and interests, to responsibly monitor and manage his/her own actions, is goal-oriented, with a self-directing life style and has the competency to…

…create plenty of opportunities by the choices made and decisions taken.

…reliably manage personal & professional networks, needed services, support and any other assistance that might be required from time to time.

…and autonomy to control own resourcesImplies everything that might be deployed to achieve set goals, which can range from the materialistic, money, the physical, mental, skills, abilities and all the way up-to the spiritual. and obtain additional services -if and when needed - to obtain specific objectives and achieve envisioned goals.

…and willingness to participate in and contribute to communal activities and events.

Lifestyle

To sustain an adequate level of self-determination for our daily lives is usually much easier said than done, because we…

  1. have to face our past without regret or guilt,
  2. should be thankful for the many lessons that we have learned from our past experiences in life (the good, the bad and the terrible),
  3. must handle the present with confidence and poise (i.e. utilizing the power of now and seize the moment),
  4. have to prepare for a future without fear, free from ignorance and focused on our dreams and expectations,
  5. need to sustain a harmonious attitude based on compassionate love, hope and faith in the process of life.

Thus, to keep our faith and drop our fears. Don't belief our doubts and never doubt our believes. Life is awesome, wonderful and marvelous… once we know how to live and make the most of it!

Be careful what you wish for, you might just get it! To establish and maintain a healthy and productive level of self-determination, it is important to realize that the coping mechanism of repression often is the launching platform from which we develop and initiate a balanced level of self-determination, which gradually allows us to respond and no longer react to external stimuli. This is also known as - in popular terms - emotional maturity and the source of our personal power.

Therefore a self-determined individual…

  • regard problems as challenges.
  • have definite personal boundaries for conduct.
  • do not manipulate for personal gain or deceive others.
  • envy no one and take charge of his/her own destiny.
  • know and understand that consciousness eventually changes reality.
  • both happiness and suffering is sacred, because of the inherent life lessons.
  • do not censor him-/herself or care or take seriously what others do, say or think.
  • evil is seen as the absence of autonomy, personal choice and self-worth.
  • lead by setting an example, and is reluctant to follow any unquestioned dogmas.

Crucial Evolving Cycle

Sustaining a healthy and well balanced level of self-determination (i.e. Individual responsibility within the demarcation of group accountability) in economic challenging and changing times, is extremely difficult because…

In general we have a unhealthy tendency to accept the illusion that our personal power is determined, granted and mainly seated in “outside forces”. This self-defeating perspective or belief, tends to upset the delicate balance level of our own self-determination (i.e. individuality versus conformity struggle), because our self-determination scale is unhealthy tipped in favor of an external dominated or driven locus of control.

The Past

The above personal self-determination tendency develops as a toxic result of the prevailing collective self-determination consciousness presently in existence. Our present collective self-determination consciousness, is primarily determined by Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs formulated way back in 1943. Despite plenty of criticism, Maslow's hierarchy of needs still forms the basic “carrot/stick” driven foundation of our modern day collective self-determination consciousness, specifically in capitalistic-bureaucratic driven straight jacket dominated countries.

Resulting from the above, a collective self-determination consciousness triangle developed that can be illustrated as follows…

This self-determination triangle, sourcing from and a result of Maslow's hierarchy of needs, which emphasize that physiological needs are the dominant driving force behind all of human existence.

The Present

Back in the days - 1943 to be exact - the above self-determination triangle quite accurately reflects the manner in which the majority of people were able to successfully dealt with establishing and sustaining an efficient self-determination level. However, that was 70 years ago and since then many things (e.g. politics, the economy, science, technology, …etc.) went through a process of momentous change… which created a present day workplace and societal landscape that is quite different from the one back in 1943.

The changes over a period of 70 years, and in combination with toxic VIDSHE-manipulations, resulted in a workplace and social landscapes, which are characterized by a brutality powered workplace climate. This effectively transform the collective self-determination consciousness triangle, from having a relative secure footing to a volatile and very shaky “triangle” that is easily manipulated by any number of external forces for their own selfish advantage. This manipulated self-determination triangle can be illustrated as follows…

Collective self-determination triangle as a result of change and self-serving VIDSHE-manipulations.

The Future

In modern times this evolved collective self-determination consciousness triangle is no longer robust enough to withstand unexpected external pressures and is easily toppled over to create an inner psyche climate (i.e. stormy emotions and feelings) of frustration, confusion, helplessness and utter despair. This inner turmoil frequently manifest in all kinds of social problems such as the escalation of corruption, increased divorce rate, spiraling unemployment, drug abuse, various addictions, depressions, stress, suicide, burnouts, teenage pregnancies, strikes, rage, …etc. The primary instigators and main source for experiencing acute Future Shock.

When the above collective self-determination consciousness remains an important primary directive for an individual's personal self-determination, we can safely assume that many things will get much worse in future, than it is at the moment. Thus, something gotta give …big time… before it will get any better.

However, chaos and catastrophes needn't be an inevitable outcome, providing that most people become aware of, realize and truly accept the healing power and robust counter measure of Self-organizing Networks for many of our modern day dilemmas. Although the solution appears to be very simple and quite easy to implement, eventual success mainly depends on a profound attitude change and a major mindset shift. Something that can not be easily brought about in a collective social climate which is riddled by panic, stupidity, ignorance and many fears.

Therefore, as an important first step for healing (either personally or collectively), individuals must realize that authentic Self-determination is based on and source from the TRUE self. Any individual's true self is sustained by reliable self-actualization, brought about by resilience, sturdy psyche management techniques, productive self-empowerment strategies, unique competencies and specialized knowledge.

Keeping the above in mind, we have to realize that each of us have to calibrate our present personal Self-determination Triangle to give the required prominence to self-actualization in order to efficiently deal with the many adversities of modern day life. A self-determination triangle directed and controlled by self-actualization can be illustrated as follows…

Self-determination triangle which is the foundation for the successful implementation and sustaining of Self-actualizing quests, as driven and directed by the conative and kundalini energies.

Final Thoughts

Changing the collective Self-determination Consciousness Triangle, one person at a time… starting with you!

The Change Management playlist (hosted on YouTube) provide some insight into what the real power of a healthy and balanced self-determination is all about. Please watch it… it just might influence your current perspective of your own life a little bit. Who defines who you are?

Traits

Self-determined individuals have a tendency to frequently portray the following traits…

  • Higher levels of awareness: Being able to notice limitless horizons opening up synchronized with a personal vision statement, accompanied by experiences of ecstasy, wonder and awe, when seize the moment is used fully.
  • Accepting the self and the diversity of others: Tendency to accept oneself and others as they are, lacking inhibition and able to enjoy life free of guilt. Not only do self-determined individuals fully accept themselves; they also embrace other people for who they are. Other people are treated the same, regardless of background, current status or other socio-economic and cultural factors.
  • Sense of realism & problem centered: Instead of being fearful of things that are different or unknown, a self-determined individual regard it as a challenge and able to view things logically and rationally. An self-determined individual enjoys applying his/her problem-solving skills to real-world situations and prefer helping other people to improve their own lives. Self-determined individuals are comfortable with the reality. They accept the unknown realities of life and not afraid of them.
  • Strong sense of personal ethics and responsibility:
  • Autonomous: Independent and not likely to conform to other people's ideas of happiness or contentment, which allow self-determined individuals to live in the moment and appreciate the beauty of each experience.
  • Enjoy solitude and privacy: While self-determined individuals loves the company of others, allocating time for themselves are essential for personal discovery, cultivating individual potential and foster development & growth.
  • Philosophical sense of humor: A thoughtful sense of humor, enjoying the humor in the moment and able to laugh at themselves, BUT self-determined individuals do not ridicule or make fun at the expense of another person's feelings.
  • Spontaneity: The tendency to be open, unconventional and spontaneous. Self-determined individuals are able to follow generally accepted social expectations, but do not allow themselves to be defined or confined by these collective social norms.
  • Minimalistic: Naturalness and simplicity is key. Self-determined individuals do not have a habit of showing any synthetic behavior and avoid materialistic hoarding and attachments.
  • Appreciative: Focus on the simplicity in life and view the whole world with a recurrent sense of appreciation, thankfulness and wonder. Enjoy and learn from the journey of life and do not allow the destination to cloud the present.
  • Integrity and ethics: Self-determined individuals believe in their own ethics, rather than to unconditionally follow the ones dictated by the society at large. They have a strong sense of responsibility, good and bad, what’s right or what’s wrong. However, their ethics are very unconventional and out of the society's conditioned box.
  • Humility and respect: Self-determined individuals do not consider any cast system or religion as condition to interact with others, can be a friend with anyone who has a suitable character irrespective of belief, class, color or race of a person. Others are treated humbly and very respectfully.

Characteristics

In essence self-determined individuals are individuals that… doesn't measuring themselves against others… learn to accept themselves holistically… know that they are in control… responsible for their own actions …and… refuse to stop learning and growing. These self-determined essentials normally manifest as the following characteristics…

  1. Self-determined individuals normally embrace the unknown and the ambiguous. They are not threatened or afraid of it; instead, they accept it, are comfortable with it and are often attracted by it. They do not unconditionally cling to the familiarCurrent comfort zones. , loves to explore the mysterious and are able to judge situations correctly and honestly. They are very sensitive to the fake and dishonesty and are usually free to see reality 'for what it really is'.
  2. Accept themselves, and others, for what isWith all its shortcomings, all its flaws and with warts and all. and perceives him/herself for what s/he truly is, and not as s/he would prefer him/herself to be like. With a high level of self-acceptance, s/he lacks defensiveness, unnecessary frustrations, pose or artificiality. Eventually, shortcomings come to be regarded, not as shortcomings at all, but simply something that needs to be managed responsibly with the needed compassion, humor and tolerance. Self-determined individuals accept their own human nature in a stoic manner, with all its shortcomings and discrepancies from the so called “perfect” image, without feeling real concern, because one does not complain about water, because it is wet or about rocks because they are hard - simply noting and observing what is the case - without either arguing the matter or demanding what it should otherwise be like. Nonetheless, while self-actualized individuals are accepting of shortcomings that are immutable, they do feel ashamed of or regretful about changeable deficits and bad habits.
  3. Prioritizing and enjoying the journey of life - not just the destination - and skillfully navigate the power of now optimally in symbiosis with seizing the moment.
  4. While self-determined individuals are inherently unconventional, they do not seek to shock or disturb. Unlike the rebel, they recognizes and accept the world of people in which s/he lives could not understand or accept his/her unconventionality, and since s/he has no wish to hurt them or to fight with others over every triviality, s/he will go through the ceremonies and rituals of convention with a good-humored shrug and with the best possible grace. Self-determined individuals would normallybehave in a conventional fashion, simply because no great issues are involved or because they know people will be hurt or embarrassed by any other kind of action.
  5. They are motivated by self development and growth, not by money, gains and the satisfaction of needs. Self-determined individuals attempt to grow to perfection and to develop - every day - little by little their own style of beingness.
  6. Self-determined individuals have purpose. They have a vision and mission in life… some task to fulfill, some problem outside themselves, which enlists much of their energies. This is not necessarily a task that they prefer or would choose for themselves, it may be a task that they feel is their responsibility, duty, or obligation. In general these tasks are non-personal or unselfish, rather a concern with the good of mankind in general.
  7. They are not troubled by the small things. Instead, self-determined individuals focus on the bigger picture. They operate within a framework of values that are broad and not petty, universal and not local and in terms of humanity rather than the moment. This tendency - of being above small things - seems to impart a certain serenity and lack of worry over immediate concerns which make life easier, not only for self-determined individuals, but also for all who are associated with them.
  8. They are grateful. Self-determined individuals do not take their many blessings for granted and - by doing so - maintain a fresh sense of wonder towards all of creation, from the minute (cells) to the gigantic (universe). They have the wonderful capacity to appreciate again and again, freshly and naïvely, the basic goods of life, with awe, pleasure, wonder and even ecstasy… regardless how stale these experiences might have become to others. Thus, for self-determined individuals, any sunset may be as beautiful as the first one, any flower may be of breath-taking loveliness, even after s/he has seen a million flowers. For them, even the casual workaday, moment-to-moment business of living can be thrilling, mysterious and challenging.
  9. Self-determined individuals share deep and meaningful relationships with a selected few, but also feel identification and affection towards the entire human race. They have deeper and more profound interpersonal relations than the general populous. They are capable of more fusion, greater love, more perfect identification, more obliteration of the ego boundaries than other persons would consider possible. They are inclined to be compassionate, kind and friendly to almost everyone …of suitable character… regardless of class, education, political belief, race or color.
  10. They are humble. Self-determined individuals are well aware of how little they actually know in comparison with what could be known and what is known by others. Because of this it is possible for them without pose to be honestly respectful and humble before anyone who can teach them something.
  11. Self-determined individuals resist enculturation. They do not allow themselves to be passively molded and/or conditioned by culture… an self-determined individual explores, research and deliberates to make his/her own decisions, cautiously selecting what s/he regard as good and rejecting what s/he see as bad. They neither accept all - like a sheep - nor reject all - like the average rebel - and they make up their own minds, come to their own decisions, are self-starters, are responsible for themselves and their own destinies. Unfortunately, too many people do not make up their own minds, but have their minds made up for them by salesmen, advertisers, parents, propagandists, politicians, clergymen, the TV, newspapers and so on. Because of their self-decision, self-determined individuals have a strict codes of ethics that are autonomous, rather than being dictated by society. They are most ethical portraying a high level of personal integrity, even though their ethics are not necessarily the same as those of the people around them.

Despite of all of the above… self-determined individuals aren't perfect, because there are no perfect human beings! People can be found who are good, very good indeed - in fact - great. And yet these very same people can at times be boring, irritating, petulant, selfish, angry or depressed. To avoid disillusionment and disappointment with the human nature, self-determine individuals give up their illusions about human nature and sustain an equilibrium and balanced mind-set understanding that people cannot be all bad, all of the time… nor can people be all good, all of the time. An awareness and realization that the 'goodness' or 'badness' of people mainly are determined by a contextual perspective.

Inherent Hindrances

Sustaining of a healthy and well balanced level of self-determination (i.e. Individual responsibility within the demarcation of group accountability) in modern times, generally speaking, are influenced by the following…

  • An unhealthy tendency to accept the illusion that our personal power are determined, granted and mainly seated in “outside forces”, particularly our possessions and what we consume.
  • Upsetting of the delicate balance of our own self-determination (i.e. individuality versus conformity), because our self-determination scale are frequently tipped in favour of an external dominated Locus of Control, as a result of our pursuits to “fit in” and to be accepted by society.
  • Discouraged to critically question society's self-determination dogmas.

The inherent dangers of the above influences to personal self-determination often lies in…

  1. Others may look down on you, because of your pursuit for purpose and meaning in life, rather than the widely accepted and proverbial chase after the 'pot of gold at the end of the rainbow'.
  2. When doing what you regard as 'the right thing to do' you are isolated from the mainstream of society and tolerated as eccentric or a weirdo.
  3. Consistently have to explain your stance, views and ideas.

Never explain yourself. Your friends don't need it and your enemies won't believe it.

Never respond to rudeness. When people are rude to you, they reveal who they are, not who you are. Don't take it personally.

You don't lose family or friends because real friends and family can never be lost. You lose people masquerading as family or friends.

An honest enemy is always better than a friend who lies. Pay less attention to what people say, and more attention to what they do. Their actions will reveal the truth to you.